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Destination Death
Destination Death

Season 1, Episode 18 · 1 year ago

EP19 End of Life Planning

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Times like these mean uncertainty. Thats why this episode gives you all the info you need to plan for your untimely death. Intro by @benny_jets on instagram, and follow the show @destinationdeathpodcast!

Xitewith you guys again today, I don'thave anything like researched for you. This is goingto be more of like a chat about some important topics that are related towhat's going on in the world right now, also, some things that are just reallyimportant to consider it and no matter what age, time and space you're at so we're going to get into end of lifeplanning today, as you probably can tell from the name of this episode,there's not going to be a disclaimer, because I don't think that we need one for this. It's not going to be gory. It's notgoing to be weird, it's just going to be kind of informative, so I have currently an end of life plan inplace. It's not anything wild and crazy. I have not been to seea lawyer yet, however, I did kind of come up with all of it bymyself, so I ended up the other day.Downloading Apedius of blasically fill in the blank end ofLifeplan, and that is from end of life plan, but it's just their name. You canfind them on instagram. They are a really cool company. It's run by thisgirl. I believe her name is Liz, but they have a really cool story. Theytalk about it in the beginning of the end of life plan and they basically, the first couple pages of the plan are about what they're about what the reason forhaving an end of life plan is, and it's a pretty good read. So if you doend up downloading the document, I would give it a give it a once over before you just jump in, but I havebeen waiting to fill this out and I decided that today would probablybe a decent day to go over some of the things in it for those of you that havenot ever thought about your end of life plan or were not interested or thought that,because you are, you know younger age group that you don't need to have oneyet, which is false, so, let's just get into it in this isin no way sponsored and of Lifeplan has not reached out to me o offered meanything for this. I just think that this is a really great opportunity totalk about some of these things and I'm...

...going to use some of the things thatthey have in this booklet. To Talk to you guys, so a couple things, it's really importantto have an end of life plan, no matter what age you are. I say that with a little bit of interpretation. Obviously, if you'retwelve years old, you don't need an end of Lifeplan. Your parents have somesort of plan in place in the event that you die. Hopefully that doesn't happen, but I think a lot of people kind of knowthat their parents have some kind of end of life plan. I hope so they mighthave heard of that. Will Trust a power of attorney some ofthese things that some people night have thrown around around you before. I think, if you are either emancipated living outside of your parents house, however,you are doing that married have a child or own any significantproperty or investments. You should have an end of life plan, not only because it will protect yourproperty and investments and whatever money you have to go to the places that you would wantit to go to, but also because it will assist yourfamily with dealing with the aftermath of yourdemise, and I think that that's something thata lot of people don't think about too often, especially if you're in an agegroup that is similar to mine. If you were to die today without an endof life plan without any kind of plan, without ever mentioning anything toanyone about what you would want for your funeral or your service. Or ifyou don't want to service what you want done with your body and your belongings, then it's kind of just up forinterpretation by whoever is next of kin to you. I'm not really, okay with not knowingwhat happens to my body. So that is why I have plans in place for all these things. Ialso don't want to put my family and friends through having to divy up the items that I own or dealwith closing my accounts, because they don't have any of my passwords orinformation so think about these things. As we'retalking about some of these topics...

...today, I don't know how long thispodcast will be, but I'll try to be as informative as I can without beingincredibly boring so really quickly. Let's go over someof the important documents. These will have to be gone over with either anattorney present a'm Onatorin a lawyer present. Are they the same thing? Idon't know I lawyer present and or a notary. If you go to a notary, though you know,chances are, maybe some part of your will may not belegally binding, so I would just go see a lawyer for it. So anyway, there are a couple of different things that need to be filled out for an end of life. Plann to becomplete. One of them is passwords to your accounts and yourbanking information. Any account that you have that has a password. Youshould write it down somewhere or save it somewhere that someone canaccess so that they can go in and close those accounts. You should pick someone not just anyone, someone that you trustwith your finances, with your dead body, with your accounts with your socialmedia, make them your point person and tellthem that they are your point person and what you are expecting of them inthe event that you do pass away. So the first big document I we'll talkabout is an advance directive, and these basically, if you are not able to make decisionsabout your medical care, because you are in Acoma on a ventilator incapacitated for some reason, this document allows you to decide what you wouldwant in the event that something like thatLD were to happen to you. This makes it so that your family or yourpoint person does not have to make this decision for you. It kind of takes theease off of them and puts the decision in your hands. The other thing is, you can do a powerof attorney, which in some states the power of attorney is inside of theadvance directive document. So it depends on what state you're in, but power of attorney is basicallyselecting a a point person or someone doesn't necessarily have to be the samepoint person...

...as your healthcare proxy. So, in theevent that you were incapacitated in Acoma on a ventilator, they would'mtthen make those decisions about what happens to you and what medical careyou receive. So this is basically taking the choice away from you andgiving it to someone else, because you feel that maybe they wouldbe better at making the decision in the time than you are. It depends on how you feel about doingthat, whether or not you would want that tobe something that you think about or not. So then, the last part of an advancedirective is a living will and living will basically allows you to select around the end of your life,assuming that you are an old person, wrinkly and geriatric and whatnot what medical care you do and do notwant to receive at the end of your life, and then you do have the option todetermine if you would like to be an organ donor in a advance directive in a living willthings of that nature? So, in the end of life plan they dogive you examples of living wills and advance directives andpower of attorneys and Etca so that you can kind of see like what they look like so for just so that you have an ideafor a living will. This is when you would decide if you would like life support in the event that you are needing life support. It allows you to select what anunacceptable quality of life for you would be, so that could mean you're ina chronic coma or a vegetative state. It could be that you're not able torecognize your family and friends or it could be that you are totally dependenton others for your daily care. It allows you to determine what exactlywould be absolutely out of the question for you. So then it gaves you the option tocheck off whether or not you would be okay with a feeding, tube or Bhe, given water intravenously in theevent that you, for some reason could not swallow or eat, and then it gives you also the optionsfor life, sustaining treatment so other...

...than life support. It would ask youknow in the event that you are having a cardiac event. Are you okay, with beingresuscitated? Are you okay with ventilation? Are you,okay, with dialysis or having a feeding Tude, so those are kind of the things thatyou would want to be thinking about. The DNR is also something maybe to think about. If you are older,I don't necessarily feel that I need to have a dnr at this time. In my life, I am onlyturning twenty five this year, so I don't believe that this will besomething that I need to run into right now, but it does give you the this is thetime when you would be thinking about doing a dnr is in your advance directive, so that is mostly what those are for, and then it also gives you informationabout hospice treatment. Like is hostness treatment, something that youwould consider xwinzy. So then we gome on to last willand testament basically gives you the option to takea look at everything that you own, all of your property, AL, your holdings,all o your stock, bons investment, sex Y and Z, and determine who you would want totake over the majority of your assets, or you know, split it some kind of way you can distribute your state.Basically, however, you want assuming that the people that you would like todistribute it to are able to accept a portion of your state. So this is where lawyers come in. You cannot pick someone that is like massively in debt to take overyour entire estate. Some there are some issues with who you give your estate to, and that is why you kind of need to sit down with someone vet, the personthat you want to leave your belongings in holdings to and then go over that information witha lawyer. So then I talks about what you wouldwant your funeral to look like to be like how you wouldwant that to go. You can also create a trust. That issomething that you could also do, and then there are also things that areconsidered: nonwildress distribution so...

...like just the little nickknacks in your home,those you're not really going to write into your will, because they're, not money and they're, not property. So ifyou have a really cool record collection- and you really want yourreally cool record to collection to go to a specific person, you would want to write out yournonwill distributions so that yount know where those things are going. Ifyou don't care, then your family or whoever is left behind, is going to make those decisions foryou and then you should also write downinformation about pet care. This is something that people frequently forgetwhen they are making an end of Lifeplan. If you have an animal that is currentlyalive, and you are the only person that takes care of it, you need to write down their care, who you would want your pet to go to what vet they see if they see of at what the finances of taking care ofthis pet are everything as if you were going to givethe pet away to someone else tomorrow. You also want to make sure that youwrite down all of your passwords and everything so that you know thatwhoever is taking care of your estate is able to close your accounts, pay off any debts outstanding debtsthat you have and are able to distribute whatever's left of yourwealth, two, the proper people. So these are some some things for you guysto think about. There is also a section in the end ofLifeplan, which I really like. That is pretty cute. I think I mean it's not something that youwould think about really doing. I guess I didn't really think about it,but it's basically writing down information about you, like yourfavorite hobbies, your favorite color, your favorite restaurant, your favoritetrip you ever took likes just stories about your life and things about yourlife, so that your family has a way to remember you, and if youhave children, if your children have children, it's so that your children and grandchildren have something...

...to feel better about, because you have planned for this and you have made all of these choices so that theycan have an easy transition into lifewithout you. But it is kind of like a sweet reminder of this person cared enough about me to make sure that all of this was in place and I don't have to feel as badly about them being gone,because I know that they were prepared. So I think that that's really nicethere's also the option to do a family tree, I'm not really into genealogy,but that might be something that if you have children or you have grandchildren,that might be something that you would be interested in. Family medical history completeincredibly important. Also so if you have any evidence of any major diseases- cancer,auto immune disorders, running in your family, you might want to write those down sothat you're children or spauor whatnot nose, and that is pretty much it. I think that's I mean I don't know if it was ascomprehensive as I wanted it to be. I don't know I feel I feel good aboutit. I guess I probably will put out another episode soon, I'm goingto try at least this episode was kind of meant to belike a not really a like face reality, but maybe think about the people around you in the event that something happens toyou. This isn't meant to be stressful. Atall. I know. A lot of people are really terrified of death and I will be completely transparent andhonest. I am terrified of dying, but I want to be prepared- and I know thatI could die any minute of any day and I want my loved ones to know that I caredenough about them to make a plan and determine what I would want done with my medical care with my belongings with the money that Ihave, because I wouldn't want to stress themmore than my death would stress them,...

...but I would just think about these things put a plan in place, even if it's notthat good of a plan, if you don't have all the answers right now, that's okay!As long as you put something down Turne it into a legal document and call it today, it is so easy to plan for the end of your life. The hard part is telling yourself to do it and having to think about the hard choices to make. So I will leave you guys with that. Ifyou have any questions for me at all regarding this subject or you would like more information foryou want to get just someone else's perspective, feel free to reach out to me. I want you guys to feel good about thedecisions that you make and I want to be here to help you so with that. That is our episode. I hope that it gave you some things to think about,and I hope that you take some of these thingsseriously and you consider what you would want inthe event of you are untimely death. Let me know if you have any questionsand I will catch you guys.

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